Tonight I had dinner with two close women friends. We are all in different stages of our lives. One is not currently working, but managing property. One is running her own spirituality-based business. And I am currently working for a company.
Despite the different stages in our lives, we all connected deeply when the entrepreneur among us spoke of the feeling of having to drag herself to accomplish things. “It seems like there are always things to do, and it gets overwhelming, and I just don’t want to do them anymore.”
Our conversation made me realize two things that I wanted to share with you.
First, if you also feel secretly overwhelmed and exhausted by the seemingly endless demands of life, you are not alone. You are not doing anything wrong. There is nothing wrong with you. This is life. It is demanding and requires us to meet its challenges again and again. I know that I have a hidden belief that other people–especially those who are doing fulfilling things like running their own spirituality-based businesses-don’t have to deal with everyday crap. It is a relief to know that I am not in the remedial class of life. No matter how much you love what you are doing, it can be a drag to get things done.
The second thing I realized is based off of what Thomas Huebl shared this weekend. (See here for my other post on his speech.) He said that when we end the day depleted, the issue is not what we did. The issue is how we approached our day, how deeply we connected with what was going on. When we learn to be fully present, then we emerge energized and vibrant.
What these two insights open up for me is this. The idea that there is some “end” out there . . . just around the corner . . . maybe if we fixed a few things. . . took care of a a few more . . . is an illusion. Something else will always arise. We can, however, find freedom and peace and ease by completely surrendering to what is on our plate. If we give ourselves 100% to the task in front of us, there is no friction and no drain.
Rather than pretending I have the answer to how this is actually accomplished, I will honor these insights by shifting the question I am asking. Instead of daydreaming about some alternative life where there are no more demands (“When does this end?”), I will ask myself: “How can I dive more deeply into the life I already have? How can I open more fully to the demands of daily life? Does the rhythm of my daily life require a break right now?” Oftentimes by shifting our perspective, we find the answer we are looking for.